Simply question: Where’s the best place to meet women?
The workplace? Well, not unless it’s a library.
The bar has its advantages as alcohol provides enough courage for even the smallest man to take on Ivan Drago or (worse yet) a pretty girl surrounded by her friends.
Online dating consists of about 25% of all Internet users these days, which means geeks sitting in their parent’s basement are finally off the hook.
And of course, there’s church. Remember that scene in Wedding Crashers where the girl in the hat totally eye-fucked the shit out of Jeremy? Who wouldn’t want to make a good girl go bad?
When we talk about health and exercise, we often overlook a component of the gym that is extremely valuable – the number of hot women doing Kanye’s “New Workout Plan” Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
The gym is a prime place to meet hot, single women. Obviously, they’re working up a sweat and taking care of their body, sharing the same interests as you. They care about health and fitness and want to look and feel good about themselves. If you’re putting forth the effort to take care of yourself, why not expect the same of your partner?
And I’m not saying that meeting a girl outside the gym is bad, or that exercising should be the foundation of your relationship, but it’s a comforting thought to have a similar interest in taking care of your body. It’s something you share with your partner, so why not keep it in top condition? That’s only fair, right?
The gym hook-up is tricky, though. The primary purpose of hitting the gym is not to pick up women, but to get in shape. And you don’t want to be that creepy guy on the Arc Trainer staring at women like a piece of meat. So how do you do it?
Well, if Adam Sandler has taught me anything, it’s that initiation is half the battle. Ask “gym girl” a question about a certain ab exercise or routine if she has a great stomach, or maybe about interval training for running if she’s on the treadmill a lot. Pick something that highlights one of her best features. You probably already know the answers to these questions, but that’s not the point. It’s all about starting the conversation.
What you shouldn’t do is interrupt her workout. Nobody likes to be tapped on the shoulder for a trivial question that can easily be found through a Google search. You might need to casually end your time on the elliptical early to catch her before she leaves, but it’s better than acting like a deer in rut.
As a Midwestern resident, I assume you know what the rut is.
The important component of a successful initiation strategy is to be nonchalant. Whatever you do, be sure not to make your ultimate intentions obvious…yet. Coming on strong hardly ever works.
After that initial conversation, keep the rapport up whenever you see her. Steal a glance here and there to let her know that you notice her. Get to know her a little bit; put your best foot forward. There’s no need to rush inviting her on a date when you know you’ll see her every other day, so don’t feel pressure in asking immediately. Remember, though, friend-zone is place you don’t want to be as it quickly stifles any opportunity for something a little more, shall we say, physical.
Finally, when the opportunity presents itself, and you feel confident enough, ask her to hang out on a Saturday night. Don’t let that opportunity pass, however, as the path to just being friends is a slippery slope. If you mess up the final step in Gym Hook-Up 101, only yourself is to blame. Take control of the situation!
You can’t discover if gym girl is right for you unless you ask her – plain and simple. And if she says, “No,” at least you tried – and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. She wasn’t your type, anyways.
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